Hi my dear beloved customers,
Would you like to try our Weekly Special Acceptance Clafoutis? They do wonder on people who struggle to let go…
Let me tell you how… A few days ago, I read Alexander Semenyuk’s posts relating the ordeal he has lived with his family in Ukraine and it instantly reminded me how we tend to forget that our lives, though sometimes full of chaos and sorrows, are so blessed.
I must say that I do that a lot and this post was a very eye-(re)opening reading, reminding me how lucky I am with my life, though I can be very impatient at times as I related it in my Weekly Specials about life in slow motion: I don’t live in a country where I must be concealed under a burka to go out, where I must ask my father or husband for permission to go out, I don’t live in a country at war risking my life at every street corner, I don’t live in a country where milicias can rape me or my daughter in my village in front of everyone, I can access medical care for me and my family, I have a lovely home roof over my head, good food on my plate and beautiful cloths to wear. All those conditions allow me to endulge myself with a little navel-gazing about how to grow happiness and explore the mysteries of the Universe, my small frustrations being only a mean to improve the way I live my achievements when they present themselves.
When I asked Alexander Semenyuk what soul lesson he thought the Universe had sent him through this dreadful life experience, he answered me that he learned to rely on his faith and God more and that with extreme hard work he can push through anything, which is so true and I really don’t know how he would have gotten out of this situation without hard work. Yet, when we are not facing an immediate danger, I think that life shouldn’t and doesn’t have to be a struggle.
After my second awakening, I read a lot of books in which was explained that, at one point, when you accept to rely totally on your faith and to let yourself go with the flow, everything unfold perfectly. You can then begin to work on achieving your goals, taking actions when needed, but you don’t need to struggle anymore because you are aligned with what you desire and don’t doubt it will happen no matter what. Struggle comes with the act of forcing things to go your way, or doing something you are not meant for, whereas taking actions to achieve your dreams or goals, working on topics you love, with passion, knowing they are allowing you to walk a step towards your goals, lifts you up. This, of course, as stated above, implies that you are not in surviving mode.
It took me a lot of thoughts to understand how to let go until I read somewhere that letting go was accepting that any outcome that will come your way is okay, the “good” and the “bad”; you have to embrace, and not fear, what can go incredibly wrong for you know you can handle it no matter what, that you are never ever alone for you have your Team of Light watching over you at all times, that the Universe has your back, that everything serves a purpose and that each terrible event in your life will help you grow and find your right path: all the heartbreaks you had in your life led you to your actual happy love story - I hear the discontent clamor of my readers who are not in a happy love story right now, well, you will remember that post when you will be!
“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.”
Vivian Greene
If you regularly read my posts, you will see this quote often for it is my motto. I probably have already related that but when I went through my burnout, I genuinely waited for the storm to pass because I knew it would, I had the wisdom to, at least, know that nothing ever lasts in life, even pain, thank God!
Incidentally, when I read that quote for the first time, I didn’t really think about its meaning but I liked the idea of dancing in the rain, for I love dancing and I imagined myself dancing joyfully under a warm and purifying tropical rain. Nevertheless, the meaning essence of the quote totally escaped me. I understood the concept of acceptance that was attached to it but didn’t know how to achieve it. How on Earth was I supposed to dance while I was curled in fetal position in my bed, aching?
As I began to work on my perspective upon life, meaning using my imagination to create what I desired and shifting my way to look at things into a constant loving and faithful point of view, my dear loyal fear began to fade away because I knew deep down that the Universe was taking care of me and of my every need so that I wouldn’t be in any danger at any point unless I, or my soul, would choose to be.
I used to have panik attacks, some rather faint, some quite strong, about every upsetting things, simple ones such as when a day didn’t go as planned even in a good way or a flat tire or my daughter waking up with a cold… Everything was a pit of anxiety and worry.
And then, one day, exhausted with struggling, I just let go. I thought, well, Universe you know what makes me happy, you know where I want to go so there’s no reason you will send me something that doesn’t go my way, whatever the thing, so you can shoot, I’m good. Now, when something unplanned happen, I notice myself expecting my old fear to kick in for a split second to only find peace instead.
And, you know what? When something unpleasant happen to me now, it always happen in a pleasant way. Let me explain the concept to you with what I’ve noticed with my car. Last summer, my hubbie and I were en route to visit a few friends in Spain and our car began to emit a huge repeated noise. Fortunately, we were on a highway we knew very well and took the first exit to be able to park on a parking lot we knew was very close. The garage came to fetch the car and took us back home which we were not far from. Our car was fixed the next day. The thing is, we were going on vacations with that car five days later with our daughter and would have been in much more trouble with the same breakdown then in the middle of highway traffic, unable to reach our destination and compelled to cancel our yearly vacations. We were not lucky: the Universe had our back!
A few weeks ago, the day before we left for Barcelona for a few days with our daughter to see Bruce Springsteen’s concert, we woke up finding our car with a flat tire. We didn’t know if the garage would have our tires in store and, frankly, couldn’t afford to buy them. While my husband was beginning to freak out about the situation with a lot of negative “What ifs”, I made a quick prayer and waited to see what would happen. We ended up having our tire fixed for 35$ before we left for Barcelona rather than having to find a garage there if it had happened a day later. Dancing in the rain, my friends!
But don’t misunderstand me, I am no yogi master and I still get upset or scared from time to time. Moreover, I have not really been faced, as I was saying in introduction, with dramatic events since I’ve embraced my new thinking style. However, I live my life more peacefully as I trust that everything that happens to me is good.
I think that regularly remembering how blessed we are in so many circumstancies and being grateful for it is one of the most important key to be able to achieve true lasting happiness; the fact that this happiness comes from inside of us rather than outside, no matter what, allows us to dance in any stormy tormented tropical rain we will encounter in our life.
So tell me, my dear beloved customers, have you ever succeeded in dancing in the rain when experiencing a life storm ?
Lots of love,
Geay
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I love your explanation about the struggle and pain. Tough to get to that understanding, but amazing. And thanks for the mention!
I had a few incidents in my life, especially with my ex! I remember I had a blow out on the N.J. turnpike and I was also lost! I had to replace the tire but I believe it was more than. $35 at the time! But I did have extra cash with me. And there were other incidents! It just seemed like my ex was always getting us, me or himself into trouble!