Unconditional Lovelipops or how I met my husband
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My dear beloved customers,
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One of my regulars recently asked me if I knew what unconditional love was really about and I am lucky enough to be able to say that I do. I explained to him that we, humans, are creatures of love, made of it and that this love was meant to flow endlessly from the inside to the outside without ever needing a refill. He watched me as though I were talking a foreign language, with the same look I would have had if I had been told that before my first breakdown.
As we are beings of energy, I would say that love and joy are our primary energies. When they began crawling back to the surface after my first therapy, I slowly started to experience them in my daily life, usually after a great day, sitting on my coach, allowing them to fill me with the satisfaction of being who I was and where I belonged. Therapy and Louise Hay’s book had helped me begin to get to know me and evaluate if I fancied myself or rather what I fancied in myself… The thing is, I had never known unconditional love before and was still searching for it on the outside rather than on the inside. Indeed, the persons who are supposed to love you exactly as you are with no conditions are your parents and I wasn’t raised by this kind of parents so I didn’t know what it looked like.
“I love you exactly as you are” says Mark Darcy to Bridget Jones
I was really getting started in the process but I nevertheless already knew, though mostly unconsciously, that I was a lovable person and that I deserved to be loved. I was single, had been for a long while, and was eager to meet a companion to share my experiences with him. As I am not a very sociable person, I felt quite lonely at that time and I remember vividly crying over the romcom “The Holiday” alone in a theater for I was so much longing to meet a boy who would love me exactly as I was. I was really desperate - I still remember the pain as though there was a whole in my heart, as though I was somehow incomplete - and I would pray every night for the Universe or God to send me someone who would cherish me.
And you know what? Ask and you shall be granted, though never right away as it seems. It had been more than a year since my last very painful break-up and it was just after New-Year’s eve. I received an email, through a french website that allowed people who attended the same school to find their long lost friends, from one of my former high school sweethearts who was apologizing for ghosting me last time we had seen each other thirteen years before. Though we had known each other for seven years, we weren’t on the same page at that time, he was in love with me and I wasn’t with him though he had woed me in the most incredible way - He even had a painting made out of a photo portrait of me. One of the last time our paths had crossed he had invited me to see a movie in the Palais des Festivals in Cannes during the international movie festival and we had climbed the mythic red carpet stairs in front of the photographers. Not bad? And yet, I was with someone else and he was so full of anger all the time that I couldn’t consider engaging in a relationship with him. In addition, on my part, I didn’t know who I was nor what I wanted to do with my life. Timing is everything regarding romance, regarding most things in life actually.
So I got his email and thought it was cute of him to apologize that way so we exchanged through MSN during a few hours before I went back to my life, at least for a week. The next week-end, he sent me another message, grumpy this time, to tell me he was very disappointed not to have heard from me again. I smiled remembering how he could be and we started to chat again. Then we called each other and talked for hours. We were living 800 km (500 miles) apart so there was no way we could meet again rapidly. But we began to talk each day on the phone or on video chats and, after three weeks, we had decided to get back together, agreed on our wedding’s date and our future daughter’s name, all this without seeing each other in real life. What is the most amazing about that is that we actually did all this, our daughter included, and we’ve been together for almost seventeen years now.
We were both in our mid-thirties, had never been married, had never had child as though we were waiting to be ready for each other and I remember thinking when we decided to go back together that nobody would ever love me as much as Thierry - that’s my hubbie’s name - would which was undoubtlessly true. During our first Valentine’s Day, which took place a few weeks after we got back together, he confessed that he had told his work partner that the only person he could leave everything for on the spur of the moment was me though we hadn’t seen each other for years, which was quite a declaration of love. He had always believed that I was the love of his life and I guess he was quite right about that. That’s at this exact moment I experienced unconditional love for the first time in my life. I knew that whatever I would do, whoever the person I would turn out to be, he would love me with no condition, support me with whatever project or action I would implement, and it turns out it is very true.
Thierry was exactly the missing piece for me, the perfect fit to make my heart whole. With his love, Thierry made me complete for if someone could love me that way, then I could love myself that way, I was allowed to love every bit of myself as well. That’s how my journey of love back to myself began and, of course, now, I don’t need any outside view of myself to deeply innerly know what a beautiful divine creature I am, as we all are. But I wouldn’t have been able to achieve that without Thierry. I needed his love to connect with mine, to ignite my own heart. Now, love flows unconditionally inside of me and I share it with whoever I come across with, in every creation I make and I thank the Universe for that incredible gift.
There is no doubt that love comes from within but sometimes you need someone’s love to ignite one’s inner fire.
So tell me, my dear beloved customers, have you found the unconditional love that flows inside you yet? If so, I would really like to read about your story in the comments.
Lots of love,
Geay
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so so so happy to read this... it makes my heart grow... thank to you and Thierry for being such wonderful loving humans 🙌
Beautifully written. Heart touching.