Alignment (part 5): Purpose
Bartender's wisdom... or is it?
My dear beloved customers,
A few weeks ago, Taylor Dean-Lipson asked me to write about alignment on his Daily Spark.
As Taylor’s posts are formated to be short and straight to the point, I really wanted to dwell a little more on the subject in a few posts of mine, exploring further each part of my argument: after gratitude, self-love, circumstances and joy, let’s see what Purpose has to offer - It feels like I’m writing about Snow White’s seven dwarfs, except I lost one in the process!
A little recap before we start…
What is alignment?
Alignment is a way of being that allows us to live in peace with ourselves and others and to flow with the energies of life, whatever they are. This state is devoided of unnecessary fears and filled with peace, love and joy.
Purpose
If we don’t choose what we want to do with our life, someone else will. This is what we ordinarily experience: the path chosen for us by our parents and society in general. We get school, get a trade, get the first job that’s available for us, get married, get kids, get retired, get dead, with a few traces of joy and happiness in the mist of sorrows and boredom. We live our life in someone else’s shoes or rather out of someone else’s fear and frustration that we end making our own.
We spend a lot of time searching for the meaning of life whereas we should ask ourselves about our own purpose of life, the goals we want to achieve which have very much to do with what we wanted to do when we were kids and teenagers before adulthood - the “real world” perspectives filled with their false limiting beliefs conveyed by our parents and society - kicked in.
The reason why we willingly agree to get drowned in the flow of our lives is because we don’t think we have a choice to do otherwise and yet, we do. We were all born with one great purpose in life and lots of small ones we can combine. The more spiritual ones call the great one our life or soul mission, I just call it purpose, a sense, a meaning we want to give to our existence, the answer to the “what’s the point to all this?” question.
In “The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy” by Douglas Adams, Earth is a biologic computer created to answer the great question about Life, the Universe and Everything which is 42 - the number my virtual café is named after. It marks the absurdity of trying to find a single meaning to life because there are as many as there are human beings. We all have our agendas and specific goals we are alive to achieve.
“So, how do I find my purpose?”, will you ask me. I’ll answer as I always do: Follow your joy! Find what you love, align it with your skills, and take small steps towards it. Be patient with yourself because growth, as learning, takes time and with the Universe because its timing is precise therefore often slow.
Your purpose is the trail you want to hike no matter how dangerous it may seem to others because you were born with the right equipment and you know how incredibly beautiful the view must be up there.
“I am a beacon in the night for those who need my light.”
This is my great purpose, the reason why I deeply feel I am alive for, the reason why I became a Life Coach at the age of 50. How do I know it? I just know. But that phrase already resonated with me when I was a teenager listening to the song “The Riddle” by Nik Kershaw. But I took a long detour before getting there.
After my burnout, which only was the not-so-gentle way of the Universe to put me back on the right tracks, I rediscovered the pleasure of writing, with my Life Coaching blog first, and with the novel that was brought to me by “destiny” afterwards.
Writing stories was all my life when I was in high school, what filled me with joy - that and singing -, but I stopped because I was told I was not talented enough to make a living with it and I believed it. I stopped writing for 30 years.
I realize now, after almost 3 years, that I was meant for writing all along, that writing was in fact one of my life purposes. On the verge of being published by a French national publisher, I know with certainty that I am meant to shine my unique light with my writings.
My novels tell feel-good stories filled with love, joy and hope, the emotions I want to incarnate in this world, the intentions I put in every action I take, the part I want to play before I leave the stage.
“Be the change you want to see in the world.” Gandhi
If you want to start looking for your own purposes, I would advice you to dig into your childhood memories, who you wanted to be, what you wanted to do before limited beliefs and insecurities invaded you. We are never more ourselves than we were when we were children with no social filter, experimenting life with joy and courage, thinking that nothing was impossible for us, from being a great sorcerer, a super hero, a fireman, a doctor, a dancer, an astronaut, a princess… We were truly magic then and we still are now. We just forgot how to use our magic.
Purpose is the guiding line for alignment, not so much in the destination we are heading to but in the way we are heading to it, with confidence, gratitude, joy, love, compassion and all those emotions that make us feel great about ourselves and others. Again, alignment is a choice and nobody else but you should get to choose what you want to do with your life.
For those who would like further guidance to their own alignment, who need help to find their own purpose, remember that I am not only a Bartender but also a Life Coach who can help you with tools to achieve this kind of peaceful state of life.
So don’t hesitate to DM me on Substack or on my website G-Spotlight to schedule a session and assess your needs.
Bartenderly yours,
Geay
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